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Dislike/like cues:

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Imagine the following scenario: Someone in a group dislikes you, whether out of envy or mistrust, but in the groupenvironment they cannot express this overtly or they will look bad—not a team player. And so they smile at you, engage you in conversation, and even seem to support your ideas. At times you might feel […]

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Dominance/submission cues:

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As the most complex social animal on the planet, we humans form elaborate hierarchies based on position, money, and power. We are aware of these hierarchies, but we do not like talking explicitly about relative power positions, and we are generally uncomfortable when others talk about their superior rank. Instead, signs of dominance or weakness […]

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Deception cues:

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We humans are by nature quite gullible. We want to believe in certain things—that we can get something for nothing; that we can easily regain or rejuvenate our health thanks to some new trick, perhaps even cheat death; that most people are essentially good and can be trusted. This propensity is what deceivers and manipulators […]

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Depending on Others Is Misery

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January 21 There is nothing worse than feeling dependent on other people. Dependency makes you vulnerable to all kinds of emotions—betrayal, disappointment, frustration—that play havoc with your mental balance. Being self-reliant iscritical. To make yourself less dependent on others and so-called experts, you need to expand your repertoire of skills. And you need to feel […]

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See Mastery as Salvation

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January 20 The misery that oppresses you lies not in your profession but in yourself! What man in the world would not find his situation intolerable if he chooses a craft, an art, indeed any form of life, without experiencing an inner calling? Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe The world is teeming with problems, many of […]

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Listen to Your Inner Authority

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January 19 You are here not merely to gratify your impulses and consume what others have made but to make and contribute as well, to serve a higher purpose. To serve this higher purpose, you must cultivate what is unique about you. Stop listening so much to the words and opinions of others, telling you […]

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Stop Being So Nice

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January 18 Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. Carl Jung You pay a greater price for being so nice and deferential than for consciously showing your Shadow. First, to follow the latter path you must begin by respecting your own […]

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The True Source of Creativity

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January 17 You must alter your very concept of creativity and try to see it from a new angle. Most often, people associate creativity with something intellectual, a particular way of thinking. The truth is that creative activity is one that involves the entire self—our emotions, our levels of energy, our characters, and our minds. […]

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There Are No Superior Callings

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January 16 Keep in mind that your contribution to the culture can come in many forms. You don’t have to become an entrepreneur or figure largely on the world’s stage. You can do just as well operating as one person in a group ororganization, as long as you retain a strong point of view that […]

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Let a Sense of Purpose Guide You

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January 15 Just as a well-filled day brings blessed sleep, so a well-employed life brings blessed death. Leonardo Di Vinci What we lack most in the modern world is a sense of a larger purpose to our lives. In the past, it was organized religion that often supplied this. But most of us now live […]